And while giving thoughtful gifts is a way that he shows up for his loved ones, Brent also learned an invaluable piece of advice from an unsuspecting mentor: Oprah. Brent and his husband have been long-time friends with Oprah since 2001 when Berkus appeared as a regular guest on her daytime show.

While the departure of Bobby Berk worried fans, the Fab Five’s newest member gives the show’s rote formula an overdue shake-up.